Grief and Loss - Paul Ruffer

Grief and Loss

When working with clients struggling with grief and loss, I encourage them to acknowledge and embrace the emptiness, brokenness, and other emotions that accompany their loss. Over time, clients come to realize that, until they acknowledge the feelings triggered by their loss, their ability to deal with its effects is compromised.

The process of accepting the loss of a loved one is slow and arduous. If we look closely at traditional cultures and their mourning rituals, we see evidence of this understanding—it takes a long time to integrate loss into our lives.

Once we transfer to our heart what we know in our head, we find ways to laugh again, sing again, dance again and feel joy again. The feelings of loss will never go away, but the preoccupation with them will decrease, freeing us to move on with our lives and in our relationships.