While we all take for granted our ability to speak and listen, few of us know how to speak so others will listen or how to listen in ways that encourage others to speak. You and your partner will learn a communication process intended to slow you down and soften you up, so that you can stop debating and start communicating. You will discover that safety in the space between partners is essential, if you want to promote and deepen your connection and intimacy.
As you acquire these new insights and skills, you will soon discover that what partners do to one another they do to themselves. That the best way to get the love you want from your partner is to first give that love to your partner. Learning to make your marriage and your partner your first priority requires a leap of faith, not in your partner or in your marriage, but rather, ironically, in yourself as someone worthy of both.